Over the years, I’ve learned that I can lose friends, be misunderstood by family, and still lay my head on the pillow each night with a sense of peace. Why? Because my focus isn’t on being liked, it’s on being respected by my children.
Popularity Isn’t the Goal
Let’s be honest: it’s not always easy being a dad. There are moments when the choices I make — especially the tough ones — aren’t popular. I’ve had people distance themselves from me because of the way I choose to parent. I’ve had family members question and even criticize my methods. And sure, those moments sting a little. No one enjoys feeling isolated or judged.
But I didn’t sign up for fatherhood to win a popularity contest.
I became a father to raise strong, thoughtful, grounded kids. That means I sometimes have to say no. That means setting boundaries, enforcing consequences, and having hard conversations — even when it’s uncomfortable for everyone involved.
Respect Over Approval
There’s a huge difference between being liked and being respected. Being liked is temporary, often based on how convenient or agreeable I am in the moment. Being respected, though, is earned over time through consistency, integrity, and love that doesn’t bend to every whim.
I want my children to know I’m in their corner — not as a buddy who always agrees with them, but as a father who’s committed to their growth and well-being. Sometimes that means I say or do things that frustrate them. But in the long run, I believe they’ll see that I stood firm because I care.
The Only Audience That Matters
At the end of the day, the only audience I’m trying to impress is the one that shares my last name. I don’t need every friend or extended family member to get it. If my children grow up knowing I led with love, acted with integrity, and always put their best interests ahead of my ego, then I can sleep just fine.
My legacy isn’t going to be built on social media likes or family approval. It’ll be built on the kind of people my kids become, and whether they look back and see a dad who was worthy of their respect.
